Illinois fathers who are divorcing may seek equal parenting time with their children but find that they still must rely upon their former spouse to get crucial information. For example, one father was told by the mother of their child that she did not have to inform him of their child’s schedule for school events or medical appointments even though he had a court order stating that he had a right to attend. Furthermore, fathers who do attend sometimes feel as though they are the less important parent compared to the mother.
Unfortunately, many fathers who seek joint custody do not get it. They may find themselves stereotyped as bad fathers even when this is not the case. This can result in a fight for even two visitation weekends each month.
When a parenting agreement is created, not every eventuality can be anticipated. Mothers may then use this as a loophole to prevent the father getting any special or additional time with the child. For example, some fathers who wanted their children to be in their weddings were not permitted to have the child there at all.
If all possible situations cannot be anticipated, one solution might be to write a parenting plan that includes a blueprint for conflict resolution. However, ultimately, fathers may have to go back to court in order to get changes in the agreement if the mother is unwilling to cooperate. Fathers cannot withhold child support if the mother is not sticking to the terms of a child custody or visitation agreement, but they may be able to get the agreement reinforced through litigation or the child support amount altered if there has been a change in circumstances.