Anyone in Illinois who has been through a divorce knows that it often affects every part of a person’s life. Getting through the divorce process can be all-consuming for many people. These days, many people are turning to less confrontational ways to settle their issues, such as mediation or collaborative divorce. Regardless, even an amicable divorce can make it difficult to go to work every day as if nothing is happening.

Even though many Illinois employers may be sympathetic, the individual will most likely be expected to continue doing his or her job. An employer could see taking time away from work to discuss the divorce with coworkers as disruptive, and coworkers may feel uncomfortable because they are unsure how to respond. Moreover, attempting to handle personal business while at work could be frowned upon. It may be a good idea to try to keep those distractions to a minimum and take time off as needed to deal with settlement negotiations.

Undoubtedly, a divorce can take a toll on a person’s health and appearance as well. Someone who ordinarily dresses professionally and has a positive attitude may fail to do so during this time. A person’s financial future may depend upon being able to keep working, so it is important to for him or her to continue to get adequate sleep, eat right and be conscious of how he or she looks and acts at work. Taking care of oneself may also help keep the emotional aspect out of the divorce settlement so that both parties are focused on a fair and equitable settlement.

For many people, their job will be the only consistent factor in life for a while, and protecting that must be a priority — not only during the divorce, but for the future as well. Keeping work and the settlement negotiations separate can also allow the parties to focus on one thing at a time. This could ensure that each party receives everything to which he or she is entitled to in the divorce. Finding a new normal could take some time, but it can be done.

Source:, “Divorce can be a career limiting event if you aren’t careful“, Lee E. Miller, June 15, 2014