Divorce can be an isolating experience for couples of any age as it requires a shift in thinking away from an “us” mentality towards a “me” mentality that may not have come into play for many years. This is particularly true for those Illinois residents experiencing so-called “gray divorce“, or a separation in late life. Experts suggest that individuals may benefit from reaching out for support and ensuring they are well-versed in their rights and responsibilities throughout the divorce process, perhaps even more so than their younger counterparts that are also confronting divorce proceedings.

Understanding the particulars of a divorce agreement can go a long way toward ensuring a divorce is relatively quick and equitable. It is important not to be intimidated by legal jargon, and to ask for clarification when it’s needed. Reaching out for emotional support from friends and family can also be helpful.

Taking care of physical necessities, while it might sound like common sense to anyone else, is something that is easily lost sight of during a divorce process. However, experts agree that maintaining a healthy diet and not neglecting physical upkeep can help make the process easier to handle. Finally, knowing what can be controlled and what must be given up can also be very important — seeking out information and keeping track of what is important can engender a feeling of control that is vital to maintaining a positive attitude, but knowing what cannot be negotiated can also bring a sense of peace.

Gray divorce is not a new concept, but to an Illinois resident facing divorce after years of marriage, it can be a daunting prospect. Taking care of oneself and reaching out to appropriate sources for information and support can go a long way toward easing through the transition. Many people facing these issues can take comfort in knowing that divorce is not a process one must endure alone.

Source: The Huffington Post, Why Divorce Is Such An Isolating Experience, Tira Harpaz, Nov. 14, 2013