While it is common knowledge that a separation is a difficult transition for any family, a new study suggests that children whose parents divorce early in their lives may have a harder time connecting with their parents. Illinois children of divorce understand the complex feelings that can come with a separation, but young children are often not capable of dealing with those feelings in the same way as older children or adults. However, it appears as though the long-term effects are not as drastic as some parents may fear.
The study, which was conducted by a prominent medical journal, polled thousands of Americans about their relationships with their parents and their romantic partners. Data gleaned based on whether the test subjects were the children of divorce suggested that people who dealt with divorce at an early age had a more difficult time relating to parental figures, citing anxiety and aloofness. They tended to be more comfortable with the parent who had the most custody, however.
Thankfully, it appears from the study that even children who suffer from relationship strain with parents do not seem to impute that experience onto their own romantic relationships as adults. While the early years are critical in fostering connection between parent and child, it seems the long-term effects do not necessarily make for strife interpersonally later on. Ultimately it appears children are more resilient than parents might fear.
It is important to all relationships within a family that a divorce is dealt with quickly and efficiently. Illinois families familiar with the process understand that the faster and more equitably a divorce is settled, the faster a family can transition into their new lives. Seeking support in these matters can help to expedite that transition.
Source: livescience.com, “Divorce Hits Youngest Kids Hardest,” Tia Ghose, July 2, 2013