Separations are rarely easy on involved parties, least of all on the children of unions that are ending. However, many experts agree that parenting tactics both during and after a divorce can benefit from careful planning. Illinois residents facing a divorce situation may find it helpful to consider so-called “co-parenting” tactics to help ease their children through a difficult transition.

Divorce can be emotionally charged for many people, but many experts agree it is important to limit the effects of negative emotion on children. Practicing effective communication techniques with a former spouse can be a valuable way of limiting the potential for “badmouthing” and other negative forms of communication. Proponents of co-parenting suggest looking at a former spousal relationship as a business agreement rather than an emotional investment to help smooth communication.

Additionally, it can be beneficial to consider the influence of decisions upon affected children. Keeping offspring in mind before engaging in important divorce-related dialogue can help to keep the conversation civil and focused on helping children through the difficult transition. Communication, especially as it revolves around custody and visitation, can go a long way toward making the transition easier on children and spouses alike.

Divorce is a relatively common practice in modern America, as Illinois residents are well aware, but that does not make it easy. By seeking support and ensuring a divorce is quickly and equitably processed, families can work together to move forward in a positive direction despite the challenges associated with divorce. Parents generally want what is best for their children, and ensuring a smooth separation is one way to express that desire.

Source:, “Successful co-parenting amid strain of divorce,” Tacoma Perry, June 24, 2013