Rockford residents who are going through a divorce often cite communication failures as a major reason for the separation. Indeed, communication skills are an integral part of everyday life. But frustration can mount when communication between spouses is lacking, or when one person monopolizes the conversation. Readers throughout Illinois will be interested to hear that communication failure is reportedly the top reason for divorce in America.

With that in mind, spouses who are in the process of separating may want to consider the fact that divorce doesn’t necessarily mean the complete end of a relationship between two people. That means clear communication often remains a key factor in establishing a non-volatile post-divorce situation.

When dialogue breaks down between two people who are divorcing but who still share family and asset concerns, stress and anger often result, straining an already tenuous relationship even more. Specifically, when children are involved, conflicts in communication can actually cause a harmful environment for them. Learning to speak to an ex-spouse with a modicum of courtesy and respect can help place children at ease, effectively smoothing the family waters.

Being the better person is probably the best piece of advice anyone can receive in a situation like this, but taking the high road can be surprisingly difficult. A good approach may be to refrain from letting tempers override common sense and judgment. Although frustrations can arise, learning to keep a cool head and think before speaking can save a lot of time and trouble in the end.

Keeping conversations on a professional level may help avoid sending mixed signals to the other party, as well as show that you are serious about communicating in a peaceful manner. Moreover, anything said to a former spouse might crop up later if disagreements return to the courtroom.

Though it may be difficult, Illinois residents who are going through divorce may do well to strive to maintain open lines of communication. Doing so can help save time and money for both parties and can even help make the divorce and its aftermath palatable.

Source: Santa Monica Mirror, “Communicating With Your Ex After Divorce,” Andra Brosh and Allison Pescosolido, March 25, 2012